WARNING: My heart is on my sleeve in this post and I did not edit. I just need to pour all of this out.
So many weeks have passed since my last post.
I learned a long time ago that the world doesn’t stop turning when something significant happens in your life. I wish it did and it sure feels as though it should. We lost our sweet Ava girl last week. It was so unexpected, for a few days, I really needed our world to stop turning.
Reading through my last post, I can’t help but be numbed (and maybe just slightly humbled) by how unpredictable life is. I wrote that post mindful of our “borrowed time” with her. I was feeling so grateful that her February blood work had revealed nothing out of the ordinary and I really just hoped to simply have her with us for, at the very least, another year. Not for a moment would I have believed our time left with her could be so short. The reality feels cruel. Our hearts are broken.
Our last day with her was one of the longest of my life and yet, it wasn’t long enough. Watching our family say their goodbyes to our beautiful girl. Knowing what the right decision was, after watching her struggle for more than two weeks, and still second guessing myself out of desperation. Telling the vet, through tears, about when we first met her and her endlessly gentle nature. Remembering the sixteen pound (they aren’t small for very long) ball of fluff we brought home. How quickly nine years went by. Feeling guilty about a few times when I was so tired, I skipped her walk and grateful for everything she brought to my (our) life. Listening to her fade away, with my face buried in the top of her head, thanking her for being such a good dog and telling her, over and over, how loved she was – how our hearts were so full we couldn’t have loved her more. All the while silently wanting to be able to take back what was happening, and just take her home.
I would give anything to jingle her collar and have her meet me at the door, or bury my face in the top of her head one more time.
I wrote the following in an email I sent, to my friend Laura, over the weekend. Right now, there really are no better words to sum up how I am feeling… “It’s really difficult not to have her here with us. The ache in my heart, at times, is overwhelming. There are moments I think of her and for a minute, I can’t breathe. John and I both found ourselves looking for her this last week. During the thunderstorm, I immediately scanned for her and began to tell her it was ok. She really was our third child, my right hand gal, and heart dog.”
There is a piece missing from our every day. When my family leaves in the morning, I am filled with a gnawing emptiness. I am not lonely, but for the first time in twenty-two years, I am all alone. The house is still. The silence is palpable and the quiet makes me so sad.
Some will say “she’s just a dog”. It’s ok for them to not understand. Many friends have texted, emailed, and sent cards saying they have been there and they understand our despair. I know people are going, or have been, through far worse. Especially right now. Still, it doesn’t lessen the sorrow in our little corner of the world.
This weekend we received a card from our veterinary office. When I opened it, there was a small(ish) piece of paper inside. I flipped it over to find her paw print. It was such a surprise it took my breath away and before I could blink, the tears were spilling down my cheeks. I know, as with anything painful, the flood of emotions will lessen over time. In the midst of it all, I hear my girlfriend Jessica, “this too shall pass”.
For now, it’s right in front of me and I really miss her.
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I’m so sorry Kim your beloved Ava has left this physical plane and left an empty void in your life. May you feel her presence in those quiet moments, as well as during the thunderstorms; and may you, over time, relax into the peace of knowing she is still with you, not in form, but in spirit. Thank you for sharing the raw feelings you’re feeling; for being vulnerable with your pain.
Thank you so much Cindy. It feels better to get it out of my head. I really appreciate your note.
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Brought tears to my eyes…
I know you can relate my friend. XO
Reading this with tears in my eyes wishing I was there with you to take the sorrow away even for just a brief moment. ❤️
Missing you K2 and I know you would if you could. XO
Oh my goodness Kim, I’m writing through my tears…I am so very sorry for your loss💕 Eva was a gentle giant and such a sweet soul, she will be missed by so many who loved her💕Kisses and hugs to you all❤️
Thank you so much Sheryl. She really was the sweetest soul. Hugs to all of you too. xo
This brings back so many memories. We lost our Lola a few months ago. We miss always. Love ya Kim!
Thank you Sally. I’m so sorry to hear about Lola. Love to you too. xo